This is the month of love. I’ve been reflecting on my relationship with my husband. I ponder what makes love truly stand the test of time. For one, it begins with respect and trust. If we can’t trust the ones we love, then who can we trust?

It’s also about attraction, that undeniable spark that makes monogamy feel like a choice, not a chore. If we were drawn to everyone, commitment would be far more complicated. And I truly believe that if we put thought into it, we can manifest it.

Although I value my privacy, I will say this, being attracted to your partner definitely factors into the equation. And for us, that attraction has only intensified over the years. The world is as wonky enough as it is. Through all the hardships we’ve faced, we find salvation and comfort in each other physically. I’m not going to pretend that life doesn’t pull us apart at times. Life pulls us apart between the busy moments and the mundane ones. But it’s the intimacy that reconnects us, reignites us, and reminds us of why we chose each other.

But more than anything, for both of us, it’s about trust. If either of us strayed, that pure attraction would shift into something less whole, less sacred. And without trust, I know we wouldn’t last. There’s something about navigating this world together that makes everything else feel more possible.

So if you’ve ever worried that attraction fades, it doesn’t have to. When love is nurtured, when commitment is honored, it can deepen in ways you never imagined. Of course, if monogamy isn’t your thing, I hear Hinge is the way to go. But right now, I’m celebrating the ones who believe in commitment, connection, and love that lasts.